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Time out

Have you taken time this week to learn, grow, practice self care and just be in the moment ?

I am pondering something called ‘ethical ambition’…
The word ‘ambitious’ can be a dirty word for some, making them suspicious or embarrassed to be such! Like they are not worthy to seek and claim success… Yet what if we are ethically ambitious and so our path to our own personal success incorporates our morals and respects others ethics, something to think about and reflect on: how one associates success, ambition and growth can be key to limiting our potential or unleashing it….

Have a blissful weekend 🙂

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one to one

I took a little time out from most things other than home life and kids these last few weeks. Maybe it was the whole turning 35 thing…

Melodie (age 4)  disclosed something interesting hinting at spending time with just me so I have been concentrating on one to one’s with the kids. If you have a big family or are from one I think you may get this. I think to value the individual child and just focus on them for at least a few hours, say even once a month if possible nurtures an open relationship and a lasting bond. It can be easy to get lost in the hustle and bustle of daily life and chores, and if you are the only adult in the household it is easy to shut off and want time alone but do look for the hints in each child when they are reaching out to you. Behaviours that are undesirable can often stem from failed attempts to communicate a need. Don’t you think? So a shared outing or activity, even just a lunch date is never turned down here. I still do this with my 18 year old son and he’s not sick of me yet!

Full focus and total choice by the child in the way of chosen activity is the important part to incorporate (obviously within realistic terms, so trips to the moon or buying a live tiger is out). This gives a demonstration of your confidence in your child and shows that even if it is hard to be heard over the dinner table there will always be times when their opinion counts, is acknowledged and you implement their suggestions.

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It is so easy to feel guilt no matter your parenting style or situation and I confess I have been a bit distant lately, so this helps to get grounded and enjoy the simple moments of childhood.

Did I mention my son turned 18?! Maybe this explains my absence, I have been reflecting a lot, I guess it is a milestone and there is no book to refer to that gives definitive advice once parenting an ‘adult’ – haha! If you have teens how do you spend time connecting? I would love to know…

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keeping it together

I had a few blog posts on my mind to write about, some cute pics and a few words of parenting wisdom. However, as I was browsing through this past weekends photos and feeling a little harassed as I prioritise my to do’s I came to the conclusion that instead let’s just keep it real. Yes I have lists, yes I have to do’s in various camps of my life. Think KIDS, PETS, WORK, HOUSE, FOOD, MONEY, PHYSICAL, EMOTIONAL WELLBEING and it can feel like holy shit, where do I start every morning. Not all, some mornings I spring out of bed ready to embrace the day and kick butt with a smile as I read a quote or listen to a business book via Audible as I brush my teeth 😉

But just so you know, there are also these mornings, where I just need a minute to get my head in the game, guzzle a coffee and wash my face and so I hand her a chocolate bar, don’t judge me! Leave her alone for 5 minutes downstairs, don’t judge me! Come back down strutting my freshly washed face to this…

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So in case you are having a ‘bad’ day, your kids want to climb back inside your womb while you try to use the bathroom or they just want to eat all the snacks – shit happens… just kidding! It’s not shit. It’s chocolate.  But yeah shit happens, smile, breathe and pour another coffee.

You got this!

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26 things in 26 weeks

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It occurred to me we are now half way through 2016! How mad is that?! So I thought I would note 26 points that have cemented the realisation that when it comes to this adulting lark we are all just winging it especially when kids or pets are involved but we must still push towards our goals… personal change can be lonely but face the storm anyway!

  1. nobody was hospitalised (thought I would start positive)
  2. if your 2 yr old demands you breastfeed an oreo, a cheerio or a pebble, just breastfeed the damn thing
  3. feather filled sofas contain unimaginable amounts of feathers when your dog decides to rip a seat cushion open overnight (I thought I was in a blizzard for a second)
  4. teenagers aren’t so bad AT ALL
  5. nothing is precious… possessions, privacy, 20 pound notes
  6. kids eat ALOT, seriously, I feel like Jesus except the majority don’t eat fish and I’m out of bread
  7. stepping in dog pee can never not shock you, no matter how many times you slip in it
  8. when you tell a child not to put fingers in a pet rat cage this becomes a thrilling dare and you can bet they will
  9. cats have a knack for demanding to be let in at the most inconvenient times
  10. washing up liquid can happily be used as your go to cleaner/shampoo/laundry detergent because you were far too busy picking a bottle of wine to remember cleaner/shampoo/laundry detergent
  11. your child calls your food/drink spicy because you got so sick of her sampling and regurgitating your meals and drink back onto your plate/into your cup that the minute she glances yours you immediately start waving your hand in front of your face exaggerating ‘spicy’ and some weird animated ritual
  12. toddlers are irrational, testing and trying BUT oh so adorable, vulnerable and innocent so keep calm mamas!
  13. my 4 year old is smarter than me, her logic blows me away daily
  14. ok half way point, lets talk business! write your goals! shit happens when you write things down
  15. implement!!! taking action gets shit done, it’s not rocket science
  16. who you hang with kinda determines who you are, like it or lump it, who you are associating with will shape your life, choose carefully
  17. on that note, toxic people suck, friends, family, this may be painful but ditching those energy vampires will be a great move! Trust me!!
  18. raise your standards, by learning from those more knowledgeable than you, you will soar, do not be intimidated ( fake it till you make it 😉 )
  19. self doubt is your arch nemesis, punch that arsehole in the face, repetitively
  20. people will doubt your plans, keep what you need to close to your chest but also don’t be afraid to express your intentions
  21. look after yourself, everything in your world starts with you so self care is key
  22. love really does make the world go round – give what you can, as often as you can, it will come back around time and time again
  23. the world is a beautiful place and the grass is not always greener, try blooming where you are planted, it changes everything!
  24. no woman is an island – embrace strengths, differences and the help of others
  25. mothers are STRONG, even when you feel weak, you will get through this and if you are really struggling reach out, humans love to help, they really do
  26. be yourself, be kind, smile and laugh and don’t take anything too seriously, this time in 26 weeks anything may have happened 🙂

I hope you are smashing through your hopes and dreams this year, I am trying for sure! Would love to hear about anything that has happened to you so far! Highs or lows progression is what counts

 

Angie x

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Liebster nomination (part 2)

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Ahhh! Finally!!  I am excited to complete my nomination by Cymbrie! Apologies for the delay I have bursts of blogging busyness then other projects/homeschool/work/life tear me away!

Now down to the details. 11 questions I was asked:

Your favourite quote?

I am quote crazy and jot down so many so cannot choose but I have to say something my late grandmother used to tell me springs instantly to mind and that is ‘If you can’t be good, be careful’ it has served me pretty well although not always 😉

Why did you start your blog?

Having really enjoyed writing and attempts at blogging in the past and scattered notes and a tendency to overshare documenting my life, a few significant personal setbacks in the last few years made having a blog high on my list of self development priorities this year (TICK)

What is your favorite blog and why? (Please provide a link.)

Ok, I used be crazy about so many US craft blogs, mum blogs and style blogs and yet these days I can barely remember half of them but one I have visited for years and still LOVE is http://bleubirdblog.com/ . Why? In three points because it is clean, stylish and I just want to live in it! 🙂

What is your dream job?

If I knew then I would stop ‘dabbling’ and jump in… I guess I would ultimately have to say farming the land somewhere warm, having animals to care for, teaching others about sustainable semi self sufficient lifestyles and lifestyle design (I enjoy speaking to an audience) and travelling in between with my kids whilst writing my latest novel 🙂

What is your favorite book?

Another impossible one for me, my goodness is it even possible to pick just one in a lifetime. Another blog post with some recommendations is the best I can leave you with! Sorry!! I cannot possibly say one!

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The best place you have visited?

I love hanging out at the British Museum to remind me just how insignificant I am in the history of the world! Also I feel rather grounded and full of reflection in Cornwall, UK on a sandy beach.

A place you would love to travel to?

Australia, lengthy roadtrip – I am talking as long as possible. I am a bit Oz obsessed despite never having been (YET!)

What is your favorite thing about yourself?

I have a tendency to ‘get the fuck back up’ when life dishes blows (excuse me as I do swear often for effect as stated on my ‘ABOUT’ page) I guess a more adult way of saying this is that I am resilient and I’m pretty proud of that.

What is the best piece of advice you have ever received?

They will think you are nuts anyway. It took me years to just ‘do me’ and stop being a damn people pleaser (although I still am a bit, but working on it)

What is one of your hidden talents?

Possibly assessing dog behaviour, I spent a lot of time around dogs as a kid, observing them, just being with them. My dogs aren’t overly trained, I am talking about just natural pack behaviour rather than tricks for treats.

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How do you decompress after a stressful day?

Strangely to many, our rats. We have adopted quite a few pets rats and you just cannot remain stressed with a few smart and naughty rats clambering over you, trying to outwit each other in stashing food treats! They are far too funny to not feel cheery in their presence! Oh and craft magazines! Wine is good, accompanied by chocolate but truly I rarely sit still so thanks for the reminder to try to chill!

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My questions to those nominated are as follows, remember there is no obligation to participate but I would love to learn more about you all!

1.tell us one of your goals for 2016?

2. can you share one childhood memory?

3. what is your favourite meal?

4. name one significant person in your teens… and why!

5. when was the last time you cried?

6. recommend a movie you love!

7. do you have an annoying habit?

8. tell us about your blog (for those new to it)

9. in three words describe your best day ever!!!

10. who is your favourite person?

11. can you share something not many people know about you?

For those not familiar (I wasn’t!) this link explains this post 🙂

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I nominate…

anyone reading that wants to join in ! Please do as I would LOVE to read your answers 🙂

x

 

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In pics

We have had a hectic 11 days of solid activity! Guess that’s ‘homeschool’ for you! So here’s some pics in the meantime while mama plays catch up! 😀

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