home education · Homeschooling · In pics · Motherhood · Parenting · Self development · Uncategorized

one to one

I took a little time out from most things other than home life and kids these last few weeks. Maybe it was the whole turning 35 thing…

Melodie (age 4)  disclosed something interesting hinting at spending time with just me so I have been concentrating on one to one’s with the kids. If you have a big family or are from one I think you may get this. I think to value the individual child and just focus on them for at least a few hours, say even once a month if possible nurtures an open relationship and a lasting bond. It can be easy to get lost in the hustle and bustle of daily life and chores, and if you are the only adult in the household it is easy to shut off and want time alone but do look for the hints in each child when they are reaching out to you. Behaviours that are undesirable can often stem from failed attempts to communicate a need. Don’t you think? So a shared outing or activity, even just a lunch date is never turned down here. I still do this with my 18 year old son and he’s not sick of me yet!

Full focus and total choice by the child in the way of chosen activity is the important part to incorporate (obviously within realistic terms, so trips to the moon or buying a live tiger is out). This gives a demonstration of your confidence in your child and shows that even if it is hard to be heard over the dinner table there will always be times when their opinion counts, is acknowledged and you implement their suggestions.

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It is so easy to feel guilt no matter your parenting style or situation and I confess I have been a bit distant lately, so this helps to get grounded and enjoy the simple moments of childhood.

Did I mention my son turned 18?! Maybe this explains my absence, I have been reflecting a lot, I guess it is a milestone and there is no book to refer to that gives definitive advice once parenting an ‘adult’ – haha! If you have teens how do you spend time connecting? I would love to know…

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Homeschooling · In pics · life with toddlers · Motherhood · Parenting · Self development

keeping it together

I had a few blog posts on my mind to write about, some cute pics and a few words of parenting wisdom. However, as I was browsing through this past weekends photos and feeling a little harassed as I prioritise my to do’s I came to the conclusion that instead let’s just keep it real. Yes I have lists, yes I have to do’s in various camps of my life. Think KIDS, PETS, WORK, HOUSE, FOOD, MONEY, PHYSICAL, EMOTIONAL WELLBEING and it can feel like holy shit, where do I start every morning. Not all, some mornings I spring out of bed ready to embrace the day and kick butt with a smile as I read a quote or listen to a business book via Audible as I brush my teeth 😉

But just so you know, there are also these mornings, where I just need a minute to get my head in the game, guzzle a coffee and wash my face and so I hand her a chocolate bar, don’t judge me! Leave her alone for 5 minutes downstairs, don’t judge me! Come back down strutting my freshly washed face to this…

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So in case you are having a ‘bad’ day, your kids want to climb back inside your womb while you try to use the bathroom or they just want to eat all the snacks – shit happens… just kidding! It’s not shit. It’s chocolate.  But yeah shit happens, smile, breathe and pour another coffee.

You got this!

breastfeeding · Homeschooling · life with toddlers · Motherhood · Parenting · Self development

26 things in 26 weeks

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It occurred to me we are now half way through 2016! How mad is that?! So I thought I would note 26 points that have cemented the realisation that when it comes to this adulting lark we are all just winging it especially when kids or pets are involved but we must still push towards our goals… personal change can be lonely but face the storm anyway!

  1. nobody was hospitalised (thought I would start positive)
  2. if your 2 yr old demands you breastfeed an oreo, a cheerio or a pebble, just breastfeed the damn thing
  3. feather filled sofas contain unimaginable amounts of feathers when your dog decides to rip a seat cushion open overnight (I thought I was in a blizzard for a second)
  4. teenagers aren’t so bad AT ALL
  5. nothing is precious… possessions, privacy, 20 pound notes
  6. kids eat ALOT, seriously, I feel like Jesus except the majority don’t eat fish and I’m out of bread
  7. stepping in dog pee can never not shock you, no matter how many times you slip in it
  8. when you tell a child not to put fingers in a pet rat cage this becomes a thrilling dare and you can bet they will
  9. cats have a knack for demanding to be let in at the most inconvenient times
  10. washing up liquid can happily be used as your go to cleaner/shampoo/laundry detergent because you were far too busy picking a bottle of wine to remember cleaner/shampoo/laundry detergent
  11. your child calls your food/drink spicy because you got so sick of her sampling and regurgitating your meals and drink back onto your plate/into your cup that the minute she glances yours you immediately start waving your hand in front of your face exaggerating ‘spicy’ and some weird animated ritual
  12. toddlers are irrational, testing and trying BUT oh so adorable, vulnerable and innocent so keep calm mamas!
  13. my 4 year old is smarter than me, her logic blows me away daily
  14. ok half way point, lets talk business! write your goals! shit happens when you write things down
  15. implement!!! taking action gets shit done, it’s not rocket science
  16. who you hang with kinda determines who you are, like it or lump it, who you are associating with will shape your life, choose carefully
  17. on that note, toxic people suck, friends, family, this may be painful but ditching those energy vampires will be a great move! Trust me!!
  18. raise your standards, by learning from those more knowledgeable than you, you will soar, do not be intimidated ( fake it till you make it 😉 )
  19. self doubt is your arch nemesis, punch that arsehole in the face, repetitively
  20. people will doubt your plans, keep what you need to close to your chest but also don’t be afraid to express your intentions
  21. look after yourself, everything in your world starts with you so self care is key
  22. love really does make the world go round – give what you can, as often as you can, it will come back around time and time again
  23. the world is a beautiful place and the grass is not always greener, try blooming where you are planted, it changes everything!
  24. no woman is an island – embrace strengths, differences and the help of others
  25. mothers are STRONG, even when you feel weak, you will get through this and if you are really struggling reach out, humans love to help, they really do
  26. be yourself, be kind, smile and laugh and don’t take anything too seriously, this time in 26 weeks anything may have happened 🙂

I hope you are smashing through your hopes and dreams this year, I am trying for sure! Would love to hear about anything that has happened to you so far! Highs or lows progression is what counts

 

Angie x

30dayswild · Dogs · home education · Homeschooling · In pics · Motherhood · Parenting

In pics

We have had a hectic 11 days of solid activity! Guess that’s ‘homeschool’ for you! So here’s some pics in the meantime while mama plays catch up! 😀

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30dayswild · Homeschooling · In pics · single parent

I have a wild confession

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Ok, for about a week I have been so excited to begin the next 30 days! We love being outside, what’s not to love? My kids can run, jump and shout to their hearts content (actually they do that indoors too, a lot, really enthusiastically).

I think we all need nature, in fact I even tried to run a store titled ‘British Wild Life Kids ‘ with nature inspired and craft products not so long ago! It didn’t take off the way I wanted (life events and all that but hey ho all a learning curve, more about those at a later date).

Living in London we are spoilt for choice regarding open spaces, woodland and nature reserves. You heard me right, there is so much nature in the city!

So today I was so excited to begin 30 Days Wild! and to kick us off thought I would link a GoPro action adventure on our Facebook page!! Cool right?!

However in typical harassed ‘Homeschool Bum’ fashion we hit the woods, dog on leash, kids scattered in trees, puddles, wind swaying trees….scene set!

Except Mama forgot to insert the memory card into the camera, that’s correct. No SD card. As in if it wasn’t captured it didn’t happen! Seriously?! The joys of single parenting means I can’t even blame anyone!

“I told you to bring it!”

“That was your job!”

“Can you race home and grab it?!” doesn’t really work with a couple dogs, a backpack and two little ones in tow!!!

Something so silly but you know what’s important, just getting out there, keeping it real, being outside, muddy clothes, wet dog smell and whingey tired children at the end… get outdoors, move, talk, laugh, touch, observe and discuss… you can’t get this from a book.

You have to get rained on, forget your equipment and really just be, in nature, to fully appreciate why children need this. Why everyone needs this.

So for now I leave you with some pics of past adventures, in Devon in fact, but honestly as idyllic as they look nothing beats a grazed knee, a nettle sting, or a wet dog shake in your personal space to make you feel alive outside … to be continued when I get the damn camera working 😉

Are you taking part in 30 Days Wild? Let us know what you are getting up to! We would love ideas and inspiration! #30dayswild

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Homeschooling · Motherhood · Parenting · single parent

Party at 2am

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I wasn’t at my best this morning.

In all truth I wouldn’t even know what my best looks like.

I am not the kind of person that says ‘those were my best years’ …maybe they are yet to come or be recognised.

I am more of a ‘just winging it’ kinda gal, I realise lately. I fit in what I can when I can but I do pull my weight and am the get shit done kind of mum. I hold onto that fiercely!

Last night was hell, I was so looking forwards to sleep but you decided an earache was on the schedule to hit at 1am. A monumental earache of epic proportions… the kind you backtrack to when analgesics were given thinking surely they would have kicked in by now??!…

The kind of scenario your groggy delusional self wishes for another half to have the chance to say “your turn”.

Except there’s no one here, excluding the dog who’s pissed you came downstairs to muffle the wails so next door do not have reason to complain.

I rock you, sing, I am a shit singer.

Peppa Pig plays in desperation (my child doesn’t even watch TV).

I begin to clock watch, then count the hours till Daddy has ‘access’ (4-6pm).

FUUUUCCCKKKKKK….that’s like forever, please go to sleep, please someone help her, kill me now, I can’t do this.

Except I do, we drag my arse up around 8am and manage to hit homeschool library group, cook meals, do housework and before I know it it’s dusk.

I sit and watch you over water my plants, water your chubby toes and chuckle, I put your clammy baby curls in a top knot and I take a cute pic. It tells no signs of my struggle.

We made it through another glorious day, the weather was perfect, you were happy and adorable and smart and amazing!

Me, I am fucking tired but BELIEVE me when I kiss you and breathe you in, mumble in my frazzled mind just how grateful I am, I am so so grateful for you x

 

 

home education · Homeschooling · In pics

today in pics

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Today was just one of those days where I just felt so grateful to home educate, homeschool, unschool, whatever you want to label it! Just living I guess, together. Experiencing joy and meeting everyone’s suggestion without timely restraints or unnecessary agendas. I spoke about homeschooling here. Going back a couple of years ago I would have no idea how much the decision would impact my life, change it, change me… anyway for now I hope you enjoy the pics of todays ‘classroom’ 🙂