breastfeeding · Homeschooling · life with toddlers · Motherhood · Parenting · Self development

26 things in 26 weeks

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It occurred to me we are now half way through 2016! How mad is that?! So I thought I would note 26 points that have cemented the realisation that when it comes to this adulting lark we are all just winging it especially when kids or pets are involved but we must still push towards our goals… personal change can be lonely but face the storm anyway!

  1. nobody was hospitalised (thought I would start positive)
  2. if your 2 yr old demands you breastfeed an oreo, a cheerio or a pebble, just breastfeed the damn thing
  3. feather filled sofas contain unimaginable amounts of feathers when your dog decides to rip a seat cushion open overnight (I thought I was in a blizzard for a second)
  4. teenagers aren’t so bad AT ALL
  5. nothing is precious… possessions, privacy, 20 pound notes
  6. kids eat ALOT, seriously, I feel like Jesus except the majority don’t eat fish and I’m out of bread
  7. stepping in dog pee can never not shock you, no matter how many times you slip in it
  8. when you tell a child not to put fingers in a pet rat cage this becomes a thrilling dare and you can bet they will
  9. cats have a knack for demanding to be let in at the most inconvenient times
  10. washing up liquid can happily be used as your go to cleaner/shampoo/laundry detergent because you were far too busy picking a bottle of wine to remember cleaner/shampoo/laundry detergent
  11. your child calls your food/drink spicy because you got so sick of her sampling and regurgitating your meals and drink back onto your plate/into your cup that the minute she glances yours you immediately start waving your hand in front of your face exaggerating ‘spicy’ and some weird animated ritual
  12. toddlers are irrational, testing and trying BUT oh so adorable, vulnerable and innocent so keep calm mamas!
  13. my 4 year old is smarter than me, her logic blows me away daily
  14. ok half way point, lets talk business! write your goals! shit happens when you write things down
  15. implement!!! taking action gets shit done, it’s not rocket science
  16. who you hang with kinda determines who you are, like it or lump it, who you are associating with will shape your life, choose carefully
  17. on that note, toxic people suck, friends, family, this may be painful but ditching those energy vampires will be a great move! Trust me!!
  18. raise your standards, by learning from those more knowledgeable than you, you will soar, do not be intimidated ( fake it till you make it 😉 )
  19. self doubt is your arch nemesis, punch that arsehole in the face, repetitively
  20. people will doubt your plans, keep what you need to close to your chest but also don’t be afraid to express your intentions
  21. look after yourself, everything in your world starts with you so self care is key
  22. love really does make the world go round – give what you can, as often as you can, it will come back around time and time again
  23. the world is a beautiful place and the grass is not always greener, try blooming where you are planted, it changes everything!
  24. no woman is an island – embrace strengths, differences and the help of others
  25. mothers are STRONG, even when you feel weak, you will get through this and if you are really struggling reach out, humans love to help, they really do
  26. be yourself, be kind, smile and laugh and don’t take anything too seriously, this time in 26 weeks anything may have happened 🙂

I hope you are smashing through your hopes and dreams this year, I am trying for sure! Would love to hear about anything that has happened to you so far! Highs or lows progression is what counts

 

Angie x

breastfeeding · Motherhood · Parenting

the non eventful breastfeeding committee

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So Jamie Oliver has spoken out I noticed, breastfeeding is his right as well as anyone else’s to discuss in my opinion, speaking of which I guess I could call myself a breastfeeding pro although I wouldn’t really dare, ever…

I was brought up by a very private mother, the opposite of my household where we don’t even have a lock on the bathroom door (if it’s ajar bathroom is vacant, closed to, you knock and check, no biggie).

My father left at a young age and my mother remarried so in terms of male physique that too was hidden for reasons of appropriateness, around children that aren’t biologically yours I imagine the case to be.

I then became a teenage mum in a household of two brothers and said mother plus step parent and so bodies were private, to be shielded, making walking from bathroom to bedroom a speed walking exercise and regarding my baby, as a self conscious 17 year old, I chose to bottle feed him I am guessing for the above reasons and bore the brunt of the motherhood shaming brigade. The thing they don’t tell mothers, of any age is this… you are damned if you do, and damned if you don’t. If its not bad enough adults judging you just wait till your own offspring can feedback on your abilities! Accept this and run with it, you and they will survive!

By child number 4 life was my own and living on my own at a time when social media made breastfeeding pics cool and the finger up to society I vowed I would give it a shot.

I even proudly posted a fair few Instagram pro breaftfeeding pics as had become the done thing in the sisterhood of the boob. It was still all pretty novel to me.

By number 5  it was just natural, non eventful, no big deal.

I tandem fed alongside number 4 by instinct not passion.

However at times people would ask about my breastfeeding experiences and shrink back on the realisation of me feeding a 3 yr old alongside her newborn sister.

Instead of proudly displaying another breastfeeding selfie or arguing my right I would just shrug and change the subject.

You see I guess I am ‘pro breastfeeding’ but at the same time I am in no place to advise what’s right for you, when you should stop, how you should wean, how many babies one can feed at the same time!

I am just mothering my way and appreciate you leaving me to it, by all means if you want to reach out and ask for help I will try my best, but you know, we are all just winging it.

So instead of the middle finger response or a judgemental comment I’ll just be sat in the corner non eventfully breastfeeding because to me this indicates the normalisation of breastfeeding, a day when I don’t have to point it out nor argue my right to do so. Feel free to come sit at my table but please let us talk about something other than boobs, after over 4 years at this breast feeding lark, they are starting to bore me.

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Note: above customary breastfeeding selfie. Non eventful facial expression. Totally normal, unglamourous, border line boring 😉

Angie x