Sometimes happiness is no kids, a little sunshine and a walk with your dog 🙂
I hope you got some sun on your skin too!
I was approached today by an MLM… I have a lot respect for network marketing, sales and the like. I am not suspicious but look at these systems with an open mind and believe if you sincerely believe in the product go for it!
I politely but assertively declined however was then probed about my ‘business’. I don’t really class myself as someone that has one, although I do have various roles that earn me a profit I guess I am just not the sort to push and promote to an audience I feel will not be my target buyer… am I incorrect in this way of thinking? Very possibly! I do have a business, I just don’t feel the need to label what I do as such, I want it to evolve organically to a need rather than force it into a pigeon hole.
This conversation was a good lesson, as I am keeping no secrets just because I do not pipe up what I do in every conversation! I always thought a good conversationalist was someone who asks about others and listens but in this instance it was almost as though I was coming across as cagey!
I guess there is a fine balance between exposure and oversaturation when marketing yourself so I said my main roles are writer, blogger, homeschooler, online store owner and vintage/collectables seller! These roles don’t define me though, they are just a small portion of me.
It is funny to me the phrase ‘what do you do?’
To me it always refers to a job role, as if that is our label and it’s connotations define us and that is the depth of us. A one word descriptive ending the conversation dead.
What about ‘what are you about?’ instead? Maybe this question would get some suspicious glances !
But me, I want to know, what are you about?
Imagine the conversations comparing what actually makes us fellow humans tick. We gain a deeper understanding of each other rather than ‘oh that’s John, the guy who sells Herbalife’ instead becomes ‘I know John, he was telling me about how he turned his life around after his divorce, he read Robert Kiyosaki’s Rich Dad, Poor Dad, joined an MLM, started researching health and nutrition and now helps fathers get into the best emotional shape of their lives because he knows what it was like to be overweight, unmotivated and lonely! I really respect his get up and go!’
We are a suspicious species us human beings and yet we have no problems asking questions that could be taken as personal to skim the surface so we don’t have to venture into unknown territory. Just look at how conversations delve deeper under the influence of alcohol! We are not always comfortable revealing our aspirations, goals, plans. I think I came across as funny today when I explained I couldn’t promote a product as had my own goals to achieve and my efforts were directed to that path. It was the truth!
So I challenge you, the next stranger you meet, ask them what they are about, it might surprise you…
I’ve noticed a pattern, a way in which certain personalities ‘cope’ during stress, tough times, exhaustion.
I think of myself as a bit of a toughy and at times am actually proud of this label.
I mean who wants to be a victim? Seen as weak, a non coper?…
Except I’m starting to realise that by embracing ones weaknesses is not being weak, it is in fact showing your strength. Self awareness of ones limitations leads to greater capacity to ride rough seas. In an age of expanding consciousness self awareness allows us to nurture ourselves and recover quicker in times of trauma or stressful experiences.
The last few weeks have been such a period for me. Feeling helpless or alone can lead to self doubt and retraction from your goals and that’s ok. As long as we use these feelings to assess ways in which to conquer these obstacles and progress past them.
What’s not ok is to absorb negativity and not neutralise it. Do not wallow in these feelings, shrink away and disappear inside yourself. You cannot always control the outer environment, but the inner is yours and yours alone to master.
I’m cross with myself these last few weeks. I fell into old patterns that allowed me to plod through the days mundane tasks as a way to drown out the purposeful acts that I need to pursue to get to a place called ME!
Then I read this quote:
I sometimes feel I can’t parent, keep house, work from home and juggle life alone. We can, it’s not a case of ‘having it all’. It is a case of doing what we can, when we can, with what we have and begin from there.
It is easy to be hard on ourselves no matter who we are or where we are but we must push ourselves to seek out what we need to do to get to not what we want, or where we want but to WHO we strive to be …