business · Creativity · Self development

Time out

Have you taken time this week to learn, grow, practice self care and just be in the moment ?

I am pondering something called ‘ethical ambition’…
The word ‘ambitious’ can be a dirty word for some, making them suspicious or embarrassed to be such! Like they are not worthy to seek and claim success… Yet what if we are ethically ambitious and so our path to our own personal success incorporates our morals and respects others ethics, something to think about and reflect on: how one associates success, ambition and growth can be key to limiting our potential or unleashing it….

Have a blissful weekendūüôā

home education · Homeschooling · In pics · Motherhood · Parenting · Self development · Uncategorized

one to one

I took a little time out from most things other than home life and kids these last few weeks. Maybe it was the whole turning 35 thing…

Melodie (age 4) ¬†disclosed something interesting hinting at spending time with just me so I have been concentrating on one to one’s with the kids. If you have a big family or are from one I think you may get this. I think to value the individual child and just focus on them for at least a few hours, say even once a month if possible nurtures an open relationship and a lasting bond. It can be easy to get lost in the hustle and bustle of daily life and chores, and if you are the only adult in the household it is easy to shut off and want time alone but do look for the hints in each child when they are reaching out to you. Behaviours that are undesirable can often stem from failed attempts to communicate a need. Don’t you think? So a shared outing or activity, even just a lunch date is never turned down here. I still do this with my 18 year old son and he’s not sick of me yet!

Full focus and total choice by the child in the way of chosen activity is the important part to incorporate (obviously within realistic terms, so trips to the moon or buying a live tiger is out). This gives a demonstration of your confidence in your child and shows that even if it is hard to be heard over the dinner table there will always be times when their opinion counts, is acknowledged and you implement their suggestions.


It is so easy to feel guilt no matter your parenting style or situation and I confess I have been a bit distant lately, so this helps to get grounded and enjoy the simple moments of childhood.

Did I mention my son turned 18?! Maybe this explains my absence, I have been reflecting a lot, I guess it is a milestone and there is no book to refer to that gives definitive advice once parenting an ‘adult’ – haha! If you have teens how do you spend time connecting? I would love to know…

business · Creativity · Money · Self development

if it’s not working what will you try?


Since last October I have been working away on a business that speaks to my ethics, morals and interests. Having no business or marketing experience whatsoever but a toolbox of enthusiasm, hyperactivity, a shelf full of self development and business books, an internet connection and an empty purse I decided that now was as good a time as any.

Now I knew there would be ups and downs, a slow start like in a lot of start ups and days I questioned what the actual fuck I was doing…

There were also days where I would punch the air, celebrate with the dog and crack open a bottle of wine.

My little business is not anywhere near to where it needs to go, and there is much for me to do to push it in the direction I need it to go. I change things ALOT, as I read or hear something I adjust, sometimes for the better and sometimes at a big messy loss. Sometimes it is fun and sometimes it is lonely. I pray for a team, but then again, it is not the right time nor the right stage.

My stock photography is homemade as in taken at¬†home and made by me, pictures of my kids being bribed behind the scenes with chocolate and the outtakes are either¬†hysterical or just plain weird. My stock take is small and my budget smaller but instead of talking down about my little ‘project’ I boost it at every opportunity. Not all endeavours are get rich quick schemes, and sometimes we have to admit that we need another income or sideline to stay afloat to stay authentic to a start up that has ethical roots.


That is ok, just be wary of how you spend your energy on each area and the time allocated, I found it is easy to neglect your main when a new sideline pumps new enthusiasm into you. At times like this review the roots and vision of your main business and schedule separate time to work at each role.

What I am trying to say is this… if you have an idea, just start.

Build your own website learning as you go, take your own shots and be your own personal assistant. Hey, my first ‘customer’ was my mum! It counts, I did not prompt her, so it counts!!

I hope in the next year it¬†can grow into something I initially envisioned but if it doesn’t go the way I planned and I have to change course so be it. Not that I am saying do not take actionable goals, but be realistic and review frequently. Have a positive driven outlook but if something is not working try something new.


Lastly, just like a blog, when starting don’t overthink it, just begin. Get it out there and do what you can with what you have and the rest may follow.

Have an idea on your mind for business? What have you done this week to bring it to fruition? Do you really need all you are telling yourself you do to just begin?


Coming up:

Things that worked and didn’t work in my first 9 months of being a start up.

Why I approached and joined a direct sales company despite my apprehensions.

A list of must reads if you are in the ideas stage of life and business changes.



Creativity · Motherhood · Self development · single parent

it’s almost midnight…

it is almost midnight and it has dawned on me that in two weeks not only will I have an 18 year old son, I will turn 35 the next day. This got me thinking, about how life ‘should’ look when you imagine ahead and how¬†life actually does look when you get to that point.

Do I have the things I thought I would at this point? No I don’t, and what a blessing that is!

Am in in the job I trained for, sitting through exams I didn’t feel prepared for or racing for the bus to be on time for my shift, no I am not.

Am I in the country I dreamed about since I was 21, scrolling through pages on pages of real estate rentals to grasp areas, market, facilities of a country I feel I learnt more about than my native home, no I am still in my home town…

Am I a person I want to be, that is an interesting thought. I would say honestly I am becoming her more than ever due to not being where I expected to be. You see I don’t want what I did say 10, 15 years ago. I was younger, na√Įve and ever so slightly self absorbed. I thought getting myself to a destination would bring satisfaction but actually, it is helping others along the way that has propelled me into being someone of substance, of good character and I don’t say this egotistically. I think when we shed ego, or some ego¬†at least,¬†we can feel comfortable in displaying our positive traits without being overly modest. We are proud of ourselves for doing what we feel in our hearts is moral and just. Of course, there is no need to brag about acts that help others, but celebrating personal achievements is fantastic.

So as I begin to accept my flaws, change what I can and accept my limitations I am proud to hold my banner up and shout for team me, because I am my number one fan and I hope you are rooting for TEAM YOU too.

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There will be losses, draws and wins but at the end of the day we must play on, adapting to the rules and the changing of the goal posts. There will be team mates and opponents, fair weather and rained off, injuries, unfair referees and substitutes.¬†Ultimately be an MVP even without the award, scanning the field for every opportunity thrown at you even if no one is cheering you on, or that one¬†player always hogs the ball¬†because what I have come to realise is this…

no one can catch a ball with a closed fist, so open your hands, your arms, your ears and your eyes. Most of all get your head in the game and if you play consistently at some point come rain or shine there is going to be wins.

Now even I can toast thatūüôā

Are you sitting on the sidelines? Do you need to change your game? I am rooting for you.

Angie x


Homeschooling · In pics · life with toddlers · Motherhood · Parenting · Self development

keeping it together

I had a few blog posts on my mind to write about, some cute pics and a few words of parenting wisdom. However, as I was browsing through this past weekends photos and feeling a little harassed as I prioritise my to do’s I came to the conclusion that instead let’s just keep it real. Yes I have lists, yes I have to do’s in various camps of my life. Think KIDS, PETS, WORK, HOUSE, FOOD, MONEY, PHYSICAL, EMOTIONAL WELLBEING and it can feel like holy shit, where do I start every morning. Not all, some mornings I spring out of bed ready to embrace the day and kick butt with a smile as I read a quote or listen to a business book via Audible as I brush my teethūüėČ

But just so you know, there are also these mornings, where I just need a minute to get my head in the game, guzzle a coffee and wash my face and so I hand her a chocolate bar, don’t judge me! Leave her alone for 5 minutes downstairs, don’t judge me! Come back down strutting my freshly washed face to this…


So in case you are having a ‘bad’ day, your kids want to climb back inside your womb while you try to use the bathroom or they just want to eat all the snacks –¬†shit happens… just kidding! It’s not shit. It’s chocolate. ¬†But yeah shit happens, smile, breathe and pour another coffee.

You got this!

breastfeeding · Homeschooling · life with toddlers · Motherhood · Parenting · Self development

26 things in 26 weeks


It occurred to me we are now half way through 2016! How mad is that?! So I thought I would note 26 points that have cemented the realisation that when it comes to this adulting lark we are all just winging it especially when kids or pets are involved but we must still push towards our goals… personal change can be lonely but face the storm anyway!

  1. nobody was hospitalised (thought I would start positive)
  2. if your 2 yr old demands you breastfeed an oreo, a cheerio or a pebble, just breastfeed the damn thing
  3. feather filled sofas contain unimaginable amounts of feathers when your dog decides to rip a seat cushion open overnight (I thought I was in a blizzard for a second)
  4. teenagers aren’t so bad AT ALL
  5. nothing is precious… possessions, privacy, 20 pound notes
  6. kids eat ALOT, seriously, I feel like Jesus except the majority don’t eat fish and I’m out of bread
  7. stepping in dog pee can never not shock you, no matter how many times you slip in it
  8. when you tell a child not to put fingers in a pet rat cage this becomes a thrilling dare and you can bet they will
  9. cats have a knack for demanding to be let in at the most inconvenient times
  10. washing up liquid can happily be used as your go to cleaner/shampoo/laundry detergent because you were far too busy picking a bottle of wine to remember cleaner/shampoo/laundry detergent
  11. your child calls your food/drink spicy because you got so sick of her sampling and regurgitating your meals and drink back onto your plate/into your cup that the minute she glances yours you immediately start waving your hand in front of your face exaggerating ‘spicy’ and some weird animated ritual
  12. toddlers are irrational, testing and trying BUT oh so adorable, vulnerable and innocent so keep calm mamas!
  13. my 4 year old is smarter than me, her logic blows me away daily
  14. ok half way point, lets talk business! write your goals! shit happens when you write things down
  15. implement!!! taking action gets shit done, it’s not rocket science
  16. who you hang with kinda determines who you are, like it or lump it, who you are associating with will shape your life, choose carefully
  17. on that note, toxic people suck, friends, family, this may be painful but ditching those energy vampires will be a great move! Trust me!!
  18. raise your standards, by learning from those more knowledgeable than you, you will soar, do not be intimidated ( fake it till you make itūüėČ )
  19. self doubt is your arch nemesis, punch that arsehole in the face, repetitively
  20. people will doubt your plans, keep what you need to close to your chest but also don’t be afraid to express your intentions
  21. look after yourself, everything in your world starts with you so self care is key
  22. love really does make the world go round – give what you can, as often as you can, it will come back around time and time again
  23. the world is a beautiful place and the grass is not always greener, try blooming where you are planted, it changes everything!
  24. no woman is an island – embrace strengths, differences and the help of others
  25. mothers are STRONG, even when you feel weak, you will get through this and if you are really struggling reach out, humans love to help, they really do
  26. be yourself, be kind, smile and laugh and don’t take anything too seriously, this time in 26 weeks anything may have happenedūüôā

I hope you are smashing through your hopes and dreams this year, I am trying for sure! Would love to hear about anything that has happened to you so far! Highs or lows progression is what counts


Angie x